Misdirected Anger Over the Opioid Crisis Hurts Innocent People

By Dr. Lynn Webster, PNN Columnist

It's practically a cliché now to refer to the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. However, it was Elisabeth Kübler-Ross's classic book, “On Death and Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy & Their Own Families,” that first helped us understand how people grieve.

Since the book was published over 50 years ago, mental health experts have recognized that grieving is a personal process, and that not everyone will experience all five stages. Sometimes, people skip a stage altogether, or spend more time in one part of the healing process than in another, or circle back to stages they have already traversed. It’s not always a linear process. Kübler-Ross believed grieving itself was a constructive process that moved towards healing.

While her book focuses on grief associated with death and dying, we also experience the various stages of grief with other losses. The coronavirus may cause the loss of our daily routine. Addiction may bring about the loss of our jobs, family support and even self-respect. Chronic pain may mean the loss of a life once lived. We can experience the stages of grief Kübler-Ross describes any time we are consumed by a loss.

Trapped in the Anger Stage of Grief 

For most people, anger is a part of grieving and sometimes a person gets a bit stuck in it. Experiencing prolonged anger can be destructive. We can internalize that anger, hurting ourselves, or we can express it toward others. In some cases, our rage can be directed at people we don't even know. 

Misdirected anger can cause harm. We create physical and emotional harm for ourselves when we rage at people and circumstances beyond our control. Also, we can cause harm to innocent people when they are caught in the crossfire of our misplaced anger. 

Pain News Network recounts how anger affected one of the pain community's clinicians, Dr. Thomas Kline. Kline advocates for people in chronic pain and has used social media to dispel what he feels are myths about opioids.  

A mother who lost her son to a heroin overdose came across Dr. Kline's Twitter account. In her grief, the mother took offense at what she perceived to be Dr. Kline's advocacy of opioids. She filed a complaint with North Carolina's medical board, alleging that he was "giving out information regarding opioids that is not correct and could cause harm."  

She was not Dr. Kline’s patient and neither was her son. In fact, she didn't even know him. But she was convinced he was a bad doctor because he treated people in pain with opioids. Her complaint triggered an investigation that led to Dr. Kline losing his DEA license to prescribe opioids and other controlled substances. Now his 34 patients are suffering.

It is horrible for parents to lose a child, and it is unfortunate that this mother has only a partial understanding of how opioids cause harm. 

However, we can understand her anger. She has suffered a loss, and she believes opioids killed her beloved son. "My son used opioids, and opioids are lethal. Now my son is gone. Therefore, opioids killed my son," may be her logic. 

Separating Prescription Opioids from Illicit Opioids 

It is flawed thinking to lump prescription opioids together with illicit opioids such as heroin. Prescription opioids have a medical purpose, whereas illicit opioids do not. This mother did not lose her son to an overdose of prescription medication.  

It's not only people who have had personal tragedies in their lives who may be inappropriately angry. We also see people who write about the opioid crisis, policymakers, regulators, and the public venting their contempt toward anyone who defends opioids as a legitimate therapy for some patients.   

People can be forgiven for getting angry in the moment. If they have experienced a personal loss from prescription opioids, it’s reasonable for them, in their grief, to blame opioids or the doctor who prescribed them. But it's harder to accept their vengeance when they draw a false equivalency between prescription opioids and illicit drugs.  

Opioids, like all medications, have benefits and risks. Unfortunately, people with chronic pain suffer because of misunderstanding and misplaced anger.  

People whose loved ones have died from addiction often receive sympathy, while people in pain are left unattended in the shadows. Of course, people with addiction as well as people with pain deserve treatment rather than abandonment. Anger at the doctors who use opioids to try to treat their illness is unhelpful and inappropriate. 

I'm reminded of Nan Goldin, a New York-based photographer who survived an addiction to OxyContin and has now devoted her life to fighting the opioid epidemic. Her anger is directed at the Sackler family and Purdue Pharma, whom she holds responsible for the opioid crisis — even though, according to The New York Times, Goldin "overdosed on fentanyl, which she thought was heroin."  

Neither of those substances are produced by Purdue Pharma.  

People in grief may transform their sorrow into rancor without looking squarely at the whole truth or confirming their beliefs with research. Their anger may feel healthy and productive to them, because anger provides an outlet for grief. The rage they feel against opioids and the people who manufacture, prescribe, or take them allows those grieving to not to have to deal with more difficult issues, such as the loss of a loved one or the real reasons why we develop addictions. 

In the final analysis, misdirected anger is destructive and harmful to innocent bystanders, who become collateral damage. It hurts others. It may hurt society. And it also hurts the one who is stuck in the grieving process and, unfortunately, has not yet come to a place of healing. 

Lynn R. Webster, MD, is a vice president of scientific affairs for PRA Health Sciences and consults with the pharmaceutical industry. He is author of the award-winning book, “The Painful Truth,” and co-producer of the documentary, “It Hurts Until You Die.” You can find Lynn on Twitter: @LynnRWebsterMD.

Opinions expressed are those of the author alone and do not reflect the views or policy of PRA Health Sciences.

6 Emotional Stages of Chronic Pain

By Ann Marie Gaudon, PNN Columnist

Emotions are part of our life experience and influence how we cope with challenging situations such as chronic pain.

Emotional responses to pain are not “bad” or “negative” because they are a natural response to life events. For example, depression is often seen as a sign of poor health, but it can also be a way of conserving bodily energy.

Emotions are never a sign of weakness. Emotions are adaptive responses which have helped us survive as a species.

Did you know there are normal emotional stages of injury and pain? Not everyone goes through every stage and it is not a linear process. Sometimes we bounce from stage to stage in no particular order.

Let’s look at these 6 emotional stages of chronic pain:

Denial

Denial is when we refuse to acknowledge how we feel and try to conceal the problem. When we’re in this stage our thoughts are likely: “It’s probably nothing serious” or “It will pass soon enough.”

Typical denial behaviour would be to ignore the pain, keep going as though you’re not in pain, failure to seek medical attention, and not following medical advice. Basically, you’re acting like nothing is going on in your body.

Denial is also culturally reinforced by beliefs that we should “suck it up, don’t complain and keep working.”

Fear and Anxiety

We feel fear and anxiety when the reality of something wrong hits home. You will likely be thinking quite repetitively during this stage. Typical thoughts would be: “Something is very wrong” or “What’s going to happen to me?” 

In this stage, your behaviour might be to rest and withdraw or avoid activities to protect yourself from further injury or pain. You will find yourself preoccupied with a lot of worry. You will likely begin to scan your environment and your body for threats to either, and it will be hard to commit to work or play.

Depression

Depression is the most common response to chronic pain and tends to come after fear and anxiety. Your thoughts would be normal in this stage if they were: “What’s the use?” or “Why bother with anything anymore?”

Realize none of this is enjoyable or desired; it is a normal response to chronic pain. Your behaviour would be to reduce participation in normal physical activities – even the enjoyable ones.  Social withdrawal would continue as a protective adaptation and you might experience problems with sleep.

Depression can impair your sense of self and you may grieve the loss of your identity. If you’re not an employee and parent anymore, then who are you? It is normal to withdraw in depression when your world shrinks in size.

Anger

Another emotional stage, and one I am quite familiar with, is anger. This defensive behaviour is the “fight” in the fight-flight-freeze response. It energizes you to resist the problems that come with chronic pain, and to ward off danger and restore safety. Normal angry thoughts about your pain would be: “It’s not fair” or “Why me?”

Behaviours in this stage can sometimes be troublesome, as they may become impulsive (acting or speaking quickly without thinking it through) or compulsive (repetitive behaviour not serving a purpose). You may overreact to smaller things and blow up at others. You might also engage in risky behaviour such as abusing alcohol or other substances to try to numb yourself.

The key is to express your anger in a healthy manner and hopefully transform it into affirmative action.  This is where you find the message in your anger and put it to work for you. I put my anger to work for me as I advocate for chronic pain patients on a regular basis.

Shame

Shame is not to be confused with guilt. Guilt says, “I’ve done something bad” while shame says, “I am bad.” Shame comes from how we see ourselves as damaged goods and can lead to feelings of self-loathing and disgust. You might think: “I’m worthless” or “I’m a complete failure.”

As a therapist, I find this to be a particularly powerful and difficult stage for clients, as shame often takes up all the space in the room. Behaviours in this stage would be continued social withdrawal, a decrease in assertiveness and self-confidence, and possibly self-destructive behaviours such as abusing alcohol or drugs.

Acceptance

The final emotional stage of coping with chronic pain is acceptance. Some patients reach this stage fairly quickly and others never reach it.

Let me be crystal clear about acceptance: It does not mean that you want this pain or that you like this pain and gladly accept it. Absolutely not. What it does mean is that you accept yourself without judgment, you live in the present moment, and you accept what is. Your thoughts will be along these lines: “This is not my fault” or “I can and will cope with this.”

Behaviours begin to change in this stage. You will be less focused on the past and have more realistic expectations of yourself. You will maintain appropriate levels of physical activity, use medications appropriately, reduce your emotional stress, and begin to experience feelings of peace rather than constantly beating yourself up.

Acceptance does not mean that you no longer feel any of the other emotions.  You may still experience feelings of denial, fear and anxiety, depression, anger and shame, but they will be less often and with less intensity.

Acceptance -- which includes hefty doses of self-compassion -- does not cure anyone’s physical pain, but it does facilitate better coping and reduced emotional stress. You do not accept pain because you want it or like it, but because it is here, you have it, and you respond to it in a kinder, gentler way.

The purpose of acceptance is to engage in activities that you feel have value. Within this purpose, acceptance becomes relevant and necessary. As a consequence, there is often less time spent struggling against and trying to avoid pain -- time freed up to engage in more valued pursuits.

It may take some time and support to acquire this tool, but once you have, it’s yours for life. Double entendre fully intended.

Ann Marie Gaudon is a registered social worker and psychotherapist in the Waterloo region of Ontario, Canada with a specialty in chronic pain management.  She has been a chronic pain patient for 33 years and works part-time as her health allows. For more information about Ann Marie's counseling services, visit her website.

The information in this column should not be considered as professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. It is for informational purposes only and represents the author’s opinions alone. It does not inherently express or reflect the views, opinions and/or positions of Pain News Network.