By Mia Maysack, PNN Columnist

Right now, I’m having one of those moments when the pain level is so high, it's almost unbelievable. It made me remember when a fellow chronically ill friend shared a story about her time in a grocery store.  She said that it felt as though a knife was cutting her open, all while she was just attempting to buy a few things.

Her response to this experience was laughter!

Perhaps you've heard the saying, "Should I laugh or should I cry?" Personally, I feel as though there's something to that. As I write this, I'm turning to the written word as my savior and deliverer from the wretched flare I'm in the midst of. I can barely see, let alone keep thoughts straight in my mind. But I'm choosing to smile, at least on the inside, because I'm thinking of my friend.

She said she laughed because it was comical in that moment -- her essentially feeling like the walking dead but having to function normally in a public place. No one else in the store could possibly know the inner crisis she was having. 

I can attest to this sort of thing making me feel a little crazy. Perhaps what helps to push us toward the bright side is the madness that's produced along the way. 

It’s been said that laughter is the best medicine. I've yet to have an ailment cured by laughing, but it's important to remember that despite our health or hardships, we possess a playful side. We are more than just a condition or diagnosis, there are other aspects of our identities. We're not what has occurred to us; what we are becoming is a result of our choice.

I'm choosing to laugh about the fact I've been attempting to get in touch with a provider, but cannot seem to get a call back. A previous appointment with the provider was so draining it left me feeling worse than I did upon arrival. It's all a reminder of how much it took to reach out to the provider in the first place, and the countless other let downs when the healthcare system falls short, which is most of the time. Healthcare is a joke and patients are often the punchline.

A common response to a person who is struggling is to advise them to seek help. That is a valid suggestion, but if “help” is the remedy, then it must be available and within reach.

We need to see what we need within ourselves, not to solely exist, but to excel in our experiences -- as opposed being dependent on systems that don’t serve our interests.

An example:  Recently when the exact opposite thing I felt like doing was grinning, I beamed in an effort to trick my brain into stimulating an increase in endorphins. This technique is readily available to me at any point, plus it’s free and doesn’t cause any adverse side effects! 

Laughter is another great way to assist in boosting mood, as is exercise to any extent that’s doable. The idea is to consciously work to counteract the pain signals that are firing as best we can, while living with unmanageable pain of one sort or another. 

Presently, I am choosing to be mentally mindful and to rejoice in breathing. This is how I prevail. I also find solace in knowing that what I’ve already endured will give me the strength I’ll need to face whatever is coming. Until then, I’ll strive to greet every moment that tests me with a smile. 

Mia Maysack lives with chronic migraine, cluster headache and fibromyalgia. She is the founder of Keepin’ Our Heads Up, a Facebook advocacy and support group, and Peace & Love, a wellness and life coaching practice for the chronically ill.